Growing up I was lucky enough to meet my best friends in elementary school who are still my best friends to this very day. I adore my girls and no matter what is going on each others own life’s we are always there for each other. Out of my group of friends I am the only one who is settled down and the only one with kids. As much as I love my friends we are currently at different places. I have two kids to raise with my husband, while some of their biggest worries are trying to figure out which outfit to wear on a date….Needless to say slightly a different set of priorities at the moment.
Being a Mom completely changes your world, priorities, and your thinking about everything. As I love seeing my girlfriends and we will always be friends we seem to have less in common due to our lifestyles being completely different. Our conversations will lead to how tired they are from going out and working, while I find it hard to chime in and hey i’m exhausted too! I’ve carried a baby for 9 months, had a c-section, and have been up with the baby every 3 hours for the last 7 months. Do you want to know what exhaustion really feels like? Have a baby!! Yeah that would be a conversation killer for sure! Heck i’d be happy to even use the bathroom alone without being harassed by the kids.
It’s one of those things that you can’t wait until your friends settle down and get to have kids of their own and share in the experience of having kids and the 24/7 exhaustion that you experience. The only way your friends will truly understand parenting is once they fully experience it on their own, but until then it’s important to still maintain your relationships.
Just because our lives are currently at different spaces and we might not see or talk to each other as much anymore, it’s still important to keep in touch with your friends. You don’t want to look back and regret not staying in touch with your friends especially as your kids get older and want to hang out with you less!
Let me know if you have any funny stories about your friends who don’t have kids yet! I’d love to hear them.