Growing up I was lucky enough to meet my best friends in elementary school who are still my best friends to this very day. I adore my girls and no matter what is going on each others own life’s we are always there for each other. Out of my group of friends I am the only one who is settled down and the only one with kids. As much as I love my friends we are currently at different places. I have two kids to raise with my husband, while some of their biggest worries are trying to figure out which outfit to wear on a date….Needless to say slightly a different set of priorities at the moment.
Being a Mom completely changes your world, priorities, and your thinking about everything. As I love seeing my girlfriends and we will always be friends we seem to have less in common due to our lifestyles being completely different. Our conversations will lead to how tired they are from going out and working, while I find it hard to chime in and hey i’m exhausted too! I’ve carried a baby for 9 months, had a c-section, and have been up with the baby every 3 hours for the last 7 months. Do you want to know what exhaustion really feels like? Have a baby!! Yeah that would be a conversation killer for sure! Heck i’d be happy to even use the bathroom alone without being harassed by the kids.
It’s one of those things that you can’t wait until your friends settle down and get to have kids of their own and share in the experience of having kids and the 24/7 exhaustion that you experience. The only way your friends will truly understand parenting is once they fully experience it on their own, but until then it’s important to still maintain your relationships.
Just because our lives are currently at different spaces and we might not see or talk to each other as much anymore, it’s still important to keep in touch with your friends. You don’t want to look back and regret not staying in touch with your friends especially as your kids get older and want to hang out with you less!
Let me know if you have any funny stories about your friends who don’t have kids yet! I’d love to hear them.
Being a mom is physically, emotionally, and mentally exhausting. It is so important for mom’s to take time for themselves even if it is 10 minutes a day or a couple hours during the week.
Let me share with you some things I have done to get some time to myself to keep me functioning..
1.) Reading Before Bed
I’ve made a point to put a book beside my bed at night and instead of watching TV before going to bed I read books. Even if I only last reading for 5 minutes, I find that I sleep better and fall asleep a lot faster.
2.) Waking up Before the Kids
Ok i’m going to admit I never used to get up earlier then my kids! (who wake up at 6:00 am) I always wanted to sleep as long as I could and gain every minute I could. However; waking up before my kids I am able to drink my coffee, eat breakfast, or do anything else I want and have a minimum of 30 minutes to myself.
3.) Sign up for Activity
If you were an active mom involved in either sports or exercise classes, etc. Make it a priority to organize child care and get back to doing things that you love!
I know not everyone has the luxury of having child care or being able to financially get involved in activities, but I think if you get creative you can find things to do that don’t cost any money. Here is one example putting together a mom walking group, reach out via social media there might already be something like this you can join!
Recently I took my basement and made it into a workout area, nothing fancy or expensive! I got some weights and other miscellaneous work out gear for $165.00. Now in the mornings or evening I can go down there and get my workout on! (ps use youtube or instagram to find great workout idea tips.)
4.) Take A Bath Uninterrupted
This one is my fav! I love taking a bath a night once I put the kids to bed. This is a great way to relax at the end of a chaotic day and enjoy the silence!
Let me know what other ways you get some time to yourself, I’d love to hear!
Parenting is no easy task and everyone seems to have an opinion on what is best for your kids. Recently I have made the change from full-time working mom to a stay at home mom. Let me say it has been an big adjustment, but I am loving it! So I put together 5 tips that I have used over the past few months that have made a huge difference in improving myself and my family.
1.) Don’t Forget About Yourself
It is easy to forgot about yourself being a mom as everyone else in the family gets taken care of first! Don’t forget to take care of yourself! Whether you like going to salon, reading, or exercising, etc. Anything that you get to do by yourself is key to keeping yourself the best mom and wife to your family.
2.) Put your Children in Activities
Enrolling your kids in activities doesn’t haven’t to be expensive, I just put my daughter in swimming lessons at local swim club for 6 weeks and it only cost $55.00. As soon as I enrolled my daughter I noticed a big difference in her confidence she is very proud of her self for being able to accomplishing tasks and getting validation her her swim instructor.
3.) Meeting Other Stay At Home Moms
By having your kids enrolled in activities it also allows you to meet other stay at home moms or even just going to the park and getting out. This is great for the kids as you can arrange play dates and mom dates as well. It is great to have relationship with other stay at home moms who can relate to what is going on in your own life.
4.) Weekly Meal Planning
I used to rush home from work and look in the cupboards and try to throw together a meal. My approach to cooking has completely changed, every Sunday I take about 30 minutes out of the day and write down my meals for each day of the upcoming week. As I write down my meal plan I go through my cupboards and make a grocery list of what I will need to get the following day. By having set meals for each day it has simplified my life so much and allows me to have more time with my husband and kids.
5.) Getting Up Before the Kids
Waking up before my kids has by far been the best thing I have ever done. I am able to get the day started by doing laundry, meal prep, cleaning,have morning coffee to myself or with my husband. Whatever tasks that need to get completed that day I get a head start and I get them finished in half the time since I don’t have to worry about the kids!
I hope some of my tips can help you simplify and improve your family life, Please share if you have any other tips I would love to hear what has worked for your own family.