When You’re the First One In Your Group of Friends to Have Kids

When You’re the First One In Your Group of Friends to Have Kids

Growing up I was lucky enough to meet my best friends in elementary school who are still my best friends to this very day. I adore my girls and no matter what is going on each others own life’s we are always there for each other. Out of my group of friends I am the only one who is settled down and the only one with kids. As much as I love my friends we are currently at different places. I have two kids to raise with my husband, while some of their biggest worries are trying to figure out which outfit to wear on a date….Needless to say slightly a different set of priorities at the moment.

Being a Mom completely changes your world, priorities, and your thinking about everything. As I love seeing my girlfriends and we will always be friends we seem to have less in common due to our lifestyles being completely different. Our conversations will lead to how tired they are from going out and working, while I find it hard to chime in and hey i’m exhausted too! I’ve carried a baby for 9 months, had a c-section, and have been up with the baby every 3 hours for the last 7 months. Do you want to know what exhaustion really feels like? Have a baby!! ¬†Yeah that would be a conversation killer for sure! Heck i’d be happy to even use the bathroom alone without being harassed by the kids.

It’s one of those things that you can’t wait until your friends settle down and get to have kids of their own and share in the experience of having kids and the 24/7 exhaustion that you experience. The only way your friends will truly understand parenting is once they fully experience it on their own, but until then it’s important to still maintain your relationships.

Just because our lives are currently at different spaces and we might not see or talk to each other as much anymore, it’s still important to keep in touch with your friends. You don’t want to look back and regret not staying in touch with your friends especially as your kids get older and want to hang out with you less!

Let me know if you have any funny stories about your friends who don’t have kids yet! I’d love to hear them.

List of Ideas Mom’s Can Do to Get some Time to Themselves.

List of Ideas Mom’s Can Do to Get some Time to Themselves.

Being a mom is physically, emotionally, and mentally exhausting. It is so important for mom’s to take time for themselves even if it is 10 minutes a day or a couple hours during the week.

Let me share with you some things I have done to get some time to myself to keep me functioning..

1.) Reading Before Bed

I’ve made a point to put a book beside my bed at night and instead of watching TV before going to bed I read books. Even if I only last reading for 5 minutes, I find that I sleep better and fall asleep a lot faster.

2.) Waking up Before the Kids

Ok i’m going to admit I never used to get up earlier then my kids! (who wake up at 6:00 am) I always wanted to sleep as long as I could and gain every minute I could. However; waking up before my kids I am able to drink my coffee, eat breakfast, or do anything else I want and have a minimum of 30 minutes to myself.

3.) Sign up for Activity

If you were an active mom involved in either sports or exercise classes, etc. Make it a priority to organize child care and get back to doing things that you love!
I know not everyone has the luxury of having child care or being able to financially get involved in activities, but I think if you get creative you can find things to do that don’t cost any money. Here is one example putting together a mom walking group, reach out via social media there might already be something like this you can join!

Recently I took my basement and made it into a workout area, nothing fancy or expensive! I got some weights and other miscellaneous work out gear for $165.00. Now in the mornings or evening I can go down there and get my workout on! (ps use youtube or instagram to find great workout idea tips.)

4.) Take A Bath Uninterrupted

This one is my fav! I love taking a bath a night once I put the kids to bed. This is a great way to relax at the end of a chaotic day and enjoy the silence!

Let me know what other ways you get some time to yourself, I’d love to hear!