I am the youngest of three and was brought up in an average working class household, My Father always worked, My mother stayed home with us until we were in school and then she went off to work. My parents always provided for us and we were a happy healthy kids! They did the best they could and I had a very happy childhood going on camping trips, I played sports, and had great friends.
In the big scheme of things looking back, my parents were very laid back. Once I became a teenager I was pretty self sufficient I could come and go as I pleased I didn’t go get a job until I was a senior in high school and I decided to do it on my own. At the time I loved the freedom of working and going out and doing whatever I wanted it was great! However; this did nothing to set up myself for success or teach me about hard work and what it’s like in the real world. Higher education was never encouraged either which I regret not pursuing. I was sheltered and was not fully prepared by my parents for dealing with bills and responsibilities.
Once I had kids I knew I would be raising them differently.
Here is a list of 5 ways I am raising my kids adversely different.
You Can Do Anything
1.) I want my kids to know that they can do anything! encouraging a can do mindset is something that is so important! I repeat to my kids their name and say you can do anything. My daughter now if she is having an trouble trying to do something she will say her first and last name and say “I can do anything”. It’s so cute and I love that she solves the problem and feels so proud of herself.
Never Give Up
2.) Let’s face it everyone has quit something at some point in their life. For my kids I want them to understand when you start something you never quit just because it gets difficult. Having a quitting mindset never lead me anywhere in life, you have to push through the hard things and keep going.
Don’t Be Afraid to Ask for Help
3.) This is something I have struggled with i’m pretty stubborn and didn’t always ask for help when I needed it. I had to learn the hard way. Never be too stubborn to ask for help when you hit a roadblock, no matter the situation the only way to get past it might be asking for some input.
Thinking for yourself
4.) Independent thinking for problem solving and how my kids view a scenario is not always the same as my vision. I try to always support problem solving skills when it comes to playtime. I ask my daughter what she thinks will help fix the problem first before just completing the problem for her. As an adult she will need to make decisions on her own and I want her to be confident in her decision making skills.
Encouraging Their Ambitions
5.) This is one of the most important things whatever my children show an interest in and want to pursue I will always support and encourage them. Allowing my kids to have their own likes and dislikes is what shapes them as their own individual.
When my kids grown up I want them to have their own dreams to work towards and I want to be able to provide them with the successful life skills and attitude to achieve their own successes.
Let me know what things are important when it comes to raising your own kids, I’d love to hear them!